also on the family note, people are weird on here sometimes about allies going to clubs/being in queer spaces, but as long as they're there for us like this, they're family too. they may be a cousin instead of a sibling but we protect them and they protect us. at a recent attack on my local gay club, the ONLY person who was injured was an ally who was a regular at the bar who was knocked out trying to protect the drag performers who were being targeted. this is a family born out of acceptance, love, and safety in numbers, not a vip only club