I tried to make a reddit account but the username charmanderxerneas was already taken :C
Of fucking course
What sick bastard doesn’t
My dog just walked into my room, looked at me with a horrified look, and then walked backwards outta the room
It’s All A Fucking Joke, Right
In the few months I’ve been modding at fuckyeahasexual and touring ace Tumblr, there’s been a very. Steady. Stream of info that detail horrifically abusive situations and overall poor mental unhealth. Two a week in the inbox if I’m lucky, usually around seven-ten.
And there’s been so many, I can officially categorize all 500+ of these kinds of asks and submissions into an extensive bulletlist of Why Asexual Exclusionary Radicalism Is Incredibly Toxic And Shitty;
Coming Out To Family, Friends, And Employers
- “My parents keep telling me that I’m something else, and it’s making me doubt my sense of judgement, not just about my sexual identity, but also about everything in general.”
- “My family, friends, and co-workers keep referring to me as an inanimate object in a manner that’s clearly meant to humiliate and devastate me. Nothing I say will get them to stop.”
- “My parents vocally/bodily forced me to undergo medical examinations, some of them concerning my sexual organs, many of them concerning blood tests and other trauma-centric procedures.”
- “My family is intervening with my private life by changing my schedule to include exercise, socialization, friend influences, and whatever they think can ‘change’ me.”
- “My friends/co-workers no longer respect my bodily boundaries when I came out to them, because they no longer see me as someone who should be respected. They regularly touch, fondle, grope, and prod me without permission, and/or verbally harass me, and don’t take my objections seriously.”
- “My family, friends, and co-workers no longer just harass me, but also anyone I’m currently dating because they view my significant other as pathetic, underserved, or even being abused.”
First Few Days Of Dating
- “My date got irrationally angry and confrontational when I came out to them, in a manner that made me fearful.” (SO many of these.)
- “My date immediately lost any respect they had for my boundaries, no longer asked for consent, and {tried to} force themselves upon me.” (A lot of these, too)
- “My date tried to verbally circumvent any boundaries and issues I confessed to, and it made me feel like I was in danger.”
- “I didn’t come out to my date at first, and when they found out, they radically changed their behavior in an attempt to control and manipulate our new relationship to their benefit.”
Long-Term Relationships
- “My partner has forcefully and radically changed our long-term relationship after finding out about my asexuality, and I’m now trapped and controlled in a way that I wasn’t before.”
- “My partner broke up with me/is fighting with me because of my asexuality, and trying to make it seem like I’m hurting them. It’s made me doubt myself and my ability to trust my own intentions.”
- “My partner is slowly changing from what was once supportive of my asexuality, and I’m wondering when I have the right to be worried and when I’d be overreacting. I’m aware of the worst case scenario, but I also worry that I’m being selfish and childish - which are things I’ve been told all throughout my asexual experience.”
Self-Care And Self Development
- “I don’t trust my ability to say either yes or no in sexual situations, and this has extended to my life in general. I don’t feel comfortable in my ability to self-determinate.”
- “The lack of authority, definition, and schooling of the concept of asexuality has made me very uncomfortable with what I think I am, and that uncertainty haunts me every waking moment.”
- “I think it’s too late/too early to tell if I’m asexual, but the longer I hesitate, the worse my mental health and emotional wellbeing gets. I’m effectively stuck.”
- “I see no benefit in coming out, or even identifying as asexual. There’s no positivity, role models, or supportive community for what I consider a big and scary part of my overall identity.”
- “I think this was sexual abuse, but I’m wondering if I’m just being selfish and childish.”
- “I think I was treated badly by my parents/friends/partner, but I’m wondering if I’m just being selfish and childish.”
- “I want to believe that I’m deserving of equal freedom and human respect paid to other, not asexual people, but people tell me I’m being selfish and childish.”
- “No one encourages this part of me. And that makes me feel forgotten and abandoned in general.”
Shut the fuck up about your petty beef with tumblr bloggers and youtubers and Archie comics or whatever. I literally do not care, I can’t care. I see these messages every goddamn day - this post was written and drafted a month ago, and I very easily compiled most of this bulletpoint list from scratch, just by eyeing what I see in the askbox and what comes across my dash.
‘Ace discourse’ anger is empty and so meaningless. This is what I see by being part of this one 17k follow asexual ask blog for maybe half a year. I am so Done with all the faux rage posts and all the false positivity about how it’s ok to NOT be ace and all the acephobia that falls perfectly in line with the gaslighting typical of acephobia-101 while also having the audacity to claim it not so.
This is what’s real and I want to bleed it into your goddamn eyes.
Reblogging this again, for obvious reasons
#BoostAceVoices
Aw thanks for linking my post! And if we’re making additions, for anyone who wants/needs some support/evidence for the above, please follow these 3 links!
Also, for anyone that wants to get a better idea of what living as an aspec’s actually like, I highly recommend you check out all the posts in my aspec education campaign #BoostAceVoices & #BoostAroVoices!<3
staff is fucking censoring icons????????????
this is literally just a picture of princess bubblegum
How do they even dictate what needs to be censored?
well i mean i once had every single video i posted taken down and i had strikes against me for “explicit sexual content” so their algorithms leave a lot to be desired
But icons though…?
it shares the same color scheme as the lesbian flag so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
im sCREAMING THEY RLY CENSORED MY ICON BC PRINCESS BUBBLEGUM IS A L*SBIAN oh my god
staff at the beginning of June: Happy Pride Month, we love you all
staff now: NO lesbians allowed!!!
ya’ll it’s a metadata error
it’s picking up shit that isn’t even nsfw in general
Something: *is pink*
Censorship: Is that an Lesbian? 👀
@staff what the hell????
A film I made this year DOG GONE!
It’s about DOGS! PUPS! BUBS! SCAMPS! PETS! AND MORE DOGS! Grab your nearest bub and ENJOY!
More CalArts woofness: https://vimeo.com/channels/calartscharanimfilms2017
This image hurts my brain more than the original debate ever did. Brains are dumb.
i wanted to like make sure this was legit and stuff so i took a section of the left and stretched it over to the right and jesus fuck
rb for the last pic being the best demonstration by far
I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS YESTERDAY
I made a petition to get rid of the stupid new safemode update!
Because a) This is annoying me and loads of people, and b) I have nothing better to do.
As of today, Tumblr has introduced a new way of blocking sensitive media on their site, with a new “safe mode” update. This safe mode has blocked many things that don’t even come close to being sensitive, and if you’re under 18 there is no way to turn it off, period.
This petition aims to make Tumblr realise that this update is ,quite frankly, useless, as the multitude of Tumblr users have other, better ways to block sensitive content that they don’t wish to see, such as blacklisting tags or blocking offensive blogs. Furthermore, before the update, Tumblr’s safe mode was already useful for blocking sensitive content by blocking all blogs and posts that had been flagged as NSFW.
This new update, however, is seemingly blocking posts and blogs at random. It is reducing not only what content people see on Tumblr, but also what people can post. Many people can’t see content their friends are reblogging, other’s are being treated to a dashboard full of blocked posts, and a few can’t do anything due to everything being blocked.
This update is useless, untested, and broken, It’s not needed, and basically the entirety of Tumblr’s userbase can agree that Tumblr has updated the wrong things. Something like a tag blocker for mobile would be much better, and it would be more useful too.
When this petition reaches enough signatures, it will be sent to Tumblr as a sign of how much people dislike this update. The aim is to have them backtrack the update, and hopefully get them to focus on more useful updates instead of one that breaks the entire site. Tumblr should be a site for everyone, and this update is preventing that from being a thing.
Please sign the petition here: https://www.change.org/p/tumblr-remove-tumblr-s-brand-new-safe-mode-update
Also reblog to get the word out! I’ve honestly had enough of Tumblr’s rubbish updates, especially this one, which has broken everything.
Fuck the @staff!! I’m gonna make as many LGBT+ posts as I want, regardless of your homophobic safe mode!
(I betcha this will be censored you just wait for it)
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