Teach boys about periods
My mother also talked about periods to my brothers.
When I first got mine I had terrible cramps. Crippling cramps. I once was camping with my family and a few of my big brother’s friends when my period came. My cramps were so bad that my mom gave me a full pain killer ( I was 13 and before that she only gave me pills cut in half).
I literally laid down on my parents’ air mattress and cried in pain for an hour before the pill kicked in.
My brothers friend came in to the big tent and I was just curled up and sobbing. Now, I was quite the tomboy and was known to rough house with my brothers and their friends and made sure I wasnt seen as just “a little girl.” So my brother’s friend was confused to see me openly weeping in the fetal position (seriously, these were the worst cramps I have had in my life. My vision went white). He asked what was wrong with me.
My big brother stood up immediately and suggested a nice long hike. During this hike I am sure he had a pretty awkward conversation with his friend explaining menstrual cramps, because when they got back the pain pill had (mostly) kicked in and I was sitting up at a table when my brother’s friend sheepishly asked me if I was feeling better. I said I was better, and he said good.
When we made s'mores that night my brother and his friend kept me well supplied with chocolate.
Making sure sons know as much about periods and menstruation as daughters makes them better brothers, better sons better fathers, and better men. A man that understands a period will not lightly accuse a woman of “being on her period” if the woman is in an argument.
Raise better sons Teach them about normal bodily functions.
This is important. I experience cramps as severe as the ones described without fail, every month. My vision goes white, I fall over, sometimes I blackout in pain. It’s literal screaming for hours sometimes, dissociating all the while because my body can’t actually handle the pain. (Literally I hallucinate.) I should not have to keep that a secret. I should not have to hold someone’s hand and guide them through it, just for me to be told that they didn’t want to hear about it afterwards, and/or that it’s “not that bad”. I called out of work once on what was supposedly a ~big day~ and was honest about why. I had cramps and couldn’t work. Later, I found out that it reached my male district manager who threatened to write me up because apparently, thats not a valid reason to miss work. Every womans body is different. For some it really ISN’T that bad. But to not offer any education whatsoever to the male half of the population is absurd. Especially since for a lot of women it IS that bad.
Please talk to your doctor. You might have endo. Cramps should not be this bad every time.
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