Incredible how many times I've begged on here and tiktok for intersex awareness and inclusion and how many people have told me directly "intersex people don't want to be included in queer discussions"
To me, an intersex person BEGGING for inclusion
I've had intersex mutuals on tiktok post about their own experiences and had dyadic queer people swoop in to tell them intersex people don't want to be included in the queer community
Why the fuck are yall like this? Yall are so comfortable parroting exclusionist radfem bullshit if it's about intersex people
"Intersex people aren't queer" is a conservative and radfem take. I've met exactly two intersex people who believed that and they were terfs. There are so many more intersex people who are begging yall to include us and to pay attention to our genocide.
But we aren't as important as everyone else I guess :)
What I have always heard is "some intersex people want to be included in the queer community, and so they are queer, and some don't, so they aren't". It seems like a pretty reasonable take to me, what do you think?
That's true with literally anyone who falls under the queer umbrella by definition. There are intersex people who refuse to identify as intersex, even.
My point is, in what world are replies like that useful when intersex people are begging for solidarity and inclusion? Why is it when we speak about the genocide that has erased us so thoroughly, the bills being pushed to classify us as disabled and therefore unable to use either male or female bathrooms, the efforts to mutilate and erase and kill us off. I get "but some intersex people don't wanna be queer :)" like cool, okay. Sounds like those intersex people are privileged to not feel impacted by anti-queer legislation and anti-queer violence. We aren't talking about them.
There is no point bringing up that some intersex people don't want to be considered queer. We are treated queer our bodies are queer and we are being outlawed from public in 2023. Stop replying to those of us begging for solidarity with "not all intersex people"
ESPECIALLY if you're not intersex
It’s especially terrible for this messaging to be spread when the anti-trans legislators are putting clauses in their bills that make sure that they can continue to mutilate and abuse us as infants. We need to be a part of this. We are a part of it. Even if some intersex people don’t identify or label themselves queer, the world has put us in the same boat.
It's not JUST clauses to continue mutilating infants.
I believe it's Kentucky that is voting to classify intersex people as disabled specifically to bar us from any restroom that isn't one of those gender neutral family bathrooms. This would also bar any intersex person from women's shelters and domestic violence shelters.
And any of these bills that affects trans people on the basis of appearance will affect intersex people who are visibly intersex, like me.
I'm also an afab intersex woman looking into testosterone - my body responds better to T than E. If I was still living in Texas and not New Mexico, I'd not only be unable to access the hormones my body requires, but I'd be on a fash list somewhere.
It's important to think of intersex infants - but equally important to remember we as adults have been driven out of the public eye, forced into "normalizing" sort of treatments and at risk of violence and discrimination if we LOOK intersex.